如何与孩子相处？需要注意什么？其实也是每个成人与孩子相处时候需要注意的事情。
方法/步骤
1、1.咯悝滩镞Listenandanswerquestions!倾听并回答问题！孩子对世界充满好奇，他们永远都有十万个为什么。洋哥洋姐要学会倾听他们的问题，确认问烙疋艘烯题，并且友好地回答问题，帮助孩子建立信心，不断学习知识。Childrenwillnaturallycomeupwithquestionswhilelearningsomethingnew.Taketimetolistentotheirquestionsandtrytoformulatethebestansweryoucanthinkofthatdirectlyanswerstheirquestion.Sometimesyoumighthavetoaskifyouunderstandtheirquestioncorrectly.Youcanfindoutbyrephrasingitandsaying,“Isthatwhatyou’reasking?”Afteryouanswer,youcanask,“Didthatansweryourquestion?”·Ifyourhostkidasksquestionsathomeattimesthataren’tgoodforyou,besuretoexplaintothemthatit’snotagoodtimeandwhy.Thisalsogoesforanytimeyourhostkidtalkstoyou.Childrendon’talwaysunderstandthatsometimeswhenyou’reinthemiddleofcookingacomplicateddinnerit’snotagoodtimetodiscusswhathappenedtothemthatday.·Besuretosay,“Ireallywanttohearaboutthat(ortalkaboutthat),butrightnowisn’tagoodtime.Canwetalkduringdinner(oratanotherspecifiedtime)?
2、2.讵症慧鹱Speakkindly!说话礼貌！孩子天生是模仿家，洋哥洋姐的一言一行都会影响着孩子的成长。所以，礼貌地沟通和表达是给孩子上的重要一课，注意礼仪，注意语音语调芟坳葩津，注意言传身教。It’simportanttotalktochildren,andtootheradultswhileyou’rearoundchildren,thewayyouwouldlikeforthemtotalk.Childrenlearnbestbyimitating.Ifyouwantyourhostkidstobepolite,besuretousemanners,andpayattentiontothetoneofyourvoice.·Besuretosay“please,”“thankyou,”“excuseme,”and“I’msorry”appropriatelywhileinteractingwithyourhostkid.·Listentothetoneofyourvoicethroughthechild’sears.Childrenoftenpaymoreattentiontotonethantheydotowhatyou’reactuallysaying.Haveyoueverhadachildsaytoyou,“Whyareyouyellingatme?”whenyouweren’tactuallyyelling?Thisismostlikelybecauseyourtonesoundedangry,frustrated,orunhappyinsomeway,possiblywithoutyouevenrealizingit.
3、3.Takethechildren’semotionsseriously!关注孩子的情绪！孩子往往有强烈的情感，关注着往往被大人们忽视了的事情。所以，洋哥洋姐需要注意关注孩子的情绪，正确引导，帮助建立良好的情绪管控能力。Childrenhaveverystrongemotions,andsometimestheyareaboutthingsthatdon’tappearimportanttoadults.It’simportanttonotdownplayhowachildfeelsaboutacertaineventorsituation.Helpchildrentomakesenseoftheiremotionsinahelpfulway.Youcanstartbysaying,“Iunderstandthisisupsettingtoyou.Let’stalkaboutwhyyou’reupset.”Youcanthentrytocalmthemdownbytalkingaboutwaysthattheycancopewithfeelingupset,orexplainingotherpointsofviewthattheymaynothavethoughtof.
4、4.Havepatience!有耐心！和孩子相处所需的重要品质之一就是耐心。孩子的天真和有时候的无意冒犯，是需要洋哥洋姐的耐心理解的，毕竟，孩子是孩子，而洋哥洋姐需要做的，就是有耐心，照顾好孩子，也照顾好自己。Patienceisanextremelyimportantqualitytohavewhileworkingwithchildren.Itcanbeachallenge,butthebestthingtodoisrememberwhen“kidsarebeingkids.”Theyareusuallynotintentionallytryingtoirritateyou.Unlesstheyare…andinthosecasessometimesyoujusthavetoignorethem.Whenyouspendlotsoftimewithkidsinanycapacity,it’simportanttotakecareofyourselftoo.Getenoughsleep,drinkenoughwater,exerciseandeatahealthydiet,andmakesurethatyourhostfamilyallowsyousometimeofyourownsoyoucangatheryourthoughts.
5、Lastbutnotleast,everychildisdifferent,andit’simpossibletoknowwhatwaysofinteractionwillworkbestwithyourhostkid.Ifthechildrendoesn’ttrustyouatfirst,doesn’tlistentoyouatall,orifyoufeellikeyoucannotgetthroughtothem,don’tgiveup!Ittakestime,forthebothofyou,toadapttoacompletelynewpersoninthehousehold,andeverythingwillgetclearerintimeasyougettoknoweachotherandfeelmoreateasewiththefamily.Andremember,atLovePair,we’realwayshereforyouifyouneedsometipsorguidance.